Surfing through a Life

21 Oct

The paper says “Dementia”
I’m learning, though
Dad’s life:
The old farm
“I’d like to see your mother”
“Did you see Mom?”
“I’d like to see my mother”
Aunt Ruth
“Don’t want to go back into the service”
…was sleeping on the floor of a restaurant …
“I’d like to see my father”
I just want us to all have a nice lunch together
“Hello young son”
When’s breakfast? Are you going to pick me up for the football game?
“If we could just get a little rain…?
Pender first
Then Niles
“You’ve become a nice-looking girl”
“You’re a beautiful girl”
He looked straight at me.
Oh, Dad
Peace be with you
May you be happy
It’s an honor to be your daughter

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Casting a wider net of love

16 Oct

Sacred time
A treasure of now
Cherishing what’s done
Complete life
Mine
And his
We treasure each other
As is
And give thanks for all
Honored and blessed space
Place
To sink into the warmth of family
The best

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Gratitude for now

12 Oct

I am grateful for
These cool morning temps as I sit
Outside
Admiring the sky
Mist on the mountains
Call of the birds
Life in the distance
Sounds anew
Steps
My dad so determined
Content to sing
My strength
Community
All around
Roses
Hummingbirds
Perseverance
Stillness to a deeper breath
Daily routine
Ritual of life
Music – the fine notes of now

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Bringing it

11 Oct

Drought here in Southern California – so I brought the rain as best I could

Joy and peace to all

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Transitioning

11 Oct

I didn’t know he was fading…as is my dad, he kept it to himself – just telling me he felt slower.

Across the miles – California to Michigan – connection, but independence – a necessity, still planning trips, yet realizing the need to stay home.

I’m grateful for his logic, but I know now he doesn’t know he’s dying (aren’t we all?). That’s ok. I’m here now.

Bip, bip, bip….skoal

And so a new day comes on. The neighborhood awakes. Sun shines. Birds sing and play.

Let it be.

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The Perennial Philosophy

9 Oct

1- there is an infinite, changeless reality beneath the world of change
2- this same reality lies at the core of every human personality
3- the purpose of life is to discover this reality experientially: that is, to realize God while here on earth

Learning patience, persevering, in this path of now, now, now…

What can I do for my dad now? No guff! & honor my own needs as well? I want to read this to him, probably won’t get the chance or have the courage to… What’s my reality, deep inside? What’s his?

And the light of this day begins, and expands to goodness…quiet and true – all mine for now.

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Time for Now

29 Sep

Open to the Light
That pierces the heart
Your heart receives
Beauty, kindness

All will be well

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Hazy morn

17 Sep

Hazy over the fields
New dawn
Silhouette – splash of trees
Shapes
Without words
New day
Mist
Sky
Call of a killdeer
Hum of time

Oh – light of mine
Greeting this good morning

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Still Point

3 Sep

I hear the traffic in the distance
Come closer, though, now…
Night sounds, nature
This field, grass, trees
The vibration of singing
Reality

Even closer – the hum of the lamp, lit up, lighting my way into this room.

Crickets, now a bird call to this new light of day – welcoming us all

Then
The rush of a car & another…activity of the human day (for many)

Back to me – now my heart sings as I see new light, the outline of the trees to the east. Dive deeper …

Swirling
Balance
We are all one

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A little bit of dawn

3 Sep

If I can see a bit of dawn
Rising
I’m ok. All is right
With this day

Whatever comes
Has always come
From truth

True
Dawn
To Light

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